Dec 19, 2011

Natural Born Hustlers

When I hear the word "hustler" I often think of drug dealers, thieves and Diddy.  A hustler is usually embodied by someone who never stops trying to make things happen and never stops working towards some kind of goal, but in a conversation with a friend and fellow mother the other day, I realized that mothers are THE ultimate hustlers. 

Think about your last conversation with another mother and analyze the content of that conversation.  Generally when I'm in conversation with another mom, it is almost like we are talking to ourselves instead of each other.  We will usually summarize the comings and goings of the previous day and then we turn to plotting and planning the next few days.  There is a mutually exclusive set of topics that most mothers discuss; how tired we are; how late we stayed up the night before to do chores or because that is the only time we can have our brains to ourselves; the kids' social calendars and whether or not we need to go to the grocery store today.  Not to even mention money!

Most of the moms I know (especially the single ones like me) are frequently and frantically on the money hustle.  We reconfigure grocery budgets and juggle bills like a CPA!  However, every mom is constantly trying to perfect the time hustle.  I hustle time all day long, from the moment I wake up!  I have to get my daughter to school on time, then get to work on time, leave work in time to get home (or stop at the grocery store) in time to have dinner at a decent time so I can then help my daughter with her homework and maybe have some quality time with her before bedtime.  Don't add in a program at her school or a parent/teacher conference because then I have to use some of my vacation time so I can get off work in time to make it to those important events on time.  Whew!  Needless to say, some free time is in order.

Anyone who has ambitions of being a hustler should shadow a mother for a day to see how true hustlers move.  It is not for the weak or timid, but definitely for those with heart and that's why mothers are natural born hustlers!

Dec 4, 2011

The Diva Plan: Taking Care of Home

Ahhh!  That's how I want to feel by the time I get to this part of my diva plan.  If I am diligent about taking care of myself and my finances, then taking care of home should feel less like a chore.  I know very little about the living conditions of my readers, but I know that nearly every room in my home needs to be purged.  Although I have begun the process of purging my home, my home also requires daily maintenance to stay organized and running smoothly.  Therefore, it was a must that I include "Taking Care of Home" as part of my diva plan.  If I follow the plan, I won't feel so overwhelmed by the daily hustle and bustle that is my life.  So here it is, my plan for keeping home tidy, comfortable and easy on the eyes:

Taking Care of Home
  • I will stick to my cleaning schedule.
  • I will stick to my Mon. thru Fri. schedule.
  • I will prepare for the work/school week in advance.
  • I will rid my home of unnecessary items.
  • I will organize my home.
  • I will renovate and decorate one room at a time.
*I highlighted the bullet about sticking to my weekday schedule because I know it seems strange mentioning it in this post.  My thinking is, if I stick to my weekday schedule, it will be easier for me to carry out the daily maintenance needs that my home requires.

As I get deeper into what The Diva Plan is all about, I don't want anyone to think that I am an anal person who tries to live a perfect life.  I am simply trying to improve the quality of my life.  I am a mother, a daughter, sister, cousin and niece and I care more about the people in my life than I do my things and surroundings.  I don't put pressure on my self anymore (as I did before I was a mother) to get it all right.  I don't have the time!  The primary goal for me is to create an environment (tangible and intangible) for myself so I can give all the love and assistance I can to those whom I love.  With that said, go ahead and create a plan for your home that works best for you and your lifestyle

P.S.  Tools and activities will be coming by the new year to bring The Diva Plan into focus.   

Nov 30, 2011

The Diva Plan: My Money!

The second most important thing in my diva plan is the one thing that allows me to live comfortably and plan for the future and that is MY MONEY! 

I haven't always been the best money manager.  I've been up and down.  I've lived in financial bliss and I've also lived in near financial ruin.  If I were to put my finger on what caused the latter, I would have to honestly say it was a lack of consistent financial habits.  When pondering the blissful times, I realize I was very disciplined in those times.  The bottom line is, I now know that order works best for me when it comes to my money.  As a result, I've decided no matter what I'm going through or what's going on in the world, I'm going to stick to my personal financial plan.  Damn the recession!  If I stick with it, I'll be creating the blissful financial atmosphere I prefer.  Here is a snapshot of what I've come up with.
  • I will stick to my budget.
  • I will stick to my shopping list.
  • I will begin saving a set amount and I will not take it out of my savings.
  • I will open an account specifically to save for my child's future.
  • I will increase my 401K by 1% every year in January.
  • I will pay an additional $50 per month towards the principal on my mortgage.
  • I will continue to develop my entrepreneurial ideas.
    • My Financial Hierarchy
      1. Honor The Lord
      2. Pay Bills
      3. Save
      4. Enjoy
    • My Yearly Savings Plan
      1. December to March=Vacation
      2. April to July=School Supplies
      3. August to November=Christmas
Once again, your plan doesn't need to look like my plan.  For example, you may decide it is better for you to increase your retirement savings every other year; some of us may be able to save $500 a month while others may be able to save $20 a month.  My plan simply hits all of the financial points that are most important to me.  My plan also considers the things I would like to be able to do, as well as those times of the year that I know are financially draining for me. 

Remember, no pressure, because once again for every woman who feels the need to have a diva plan, I'm right in the midst of trying to make this plan work for me also.  Smooches!

Nov 28, 2011

The Diva Plan: Taking Care of Me!

To begin the process of creating and living your own diva plan, you have to start with self.  Being that most women have busy lifestyles which require us to tend to families, living spaces and employers; oftentimes, we put our own well-being last on the to do list.  Taking care of ourselves doesn't always have to imply spending money on material things or personal appearance.  The outside will take care of itself once the inside has been satisfied.  With that said, this is where my diva plan begins, with internal self and health.  Page 1 of your diva plan should be a plan to calm any internal struggles, as well as any health issues.  Here is what my Taking Care of Me plan looks like:

  • I will find a place to worship, tithe and attend regularly.
  • I will stop smoking.
  • I will choose what goes into my body carefully.
  • I will wake up early enough to meditate and exercise 20-30 each day.
  • I will see my primary care physician, OB/GYN and dentist at least once a year.
  • I will care take of my hair by keeping it clean, conditioned and moisturized.
  • From April to September, I will treat myself to a pedicure at least once a month.
  • From October to March, I will continue to give my feet the tender loving care they need.

Your Taking Care of Me plan doesn't need to look like, nor include the same things I have on my plan.  Yours should be based on what your immediate needs are.  My list includes things that I am concerned about and think about almost daily.  Don't feel under pressure to be perfect or follow your plan line by line each day.  Trust me, I'm about 8 years behind on some parts of my plan, but I'm ready and willing to start over. 

Please share your some of the components of your Taking Care of Me plan and also your progress.  I will definitely be sharing mine!

Nov 26, 2011

What is the Diva Plan?

I've been out for a while.  Nothing tragic to report.  I've just been busy with the stuff of life.  Although I'm always on a quest to tidy all of the little corners of my life, my life is no different than the average woman.  I wear many hats each day and sometimes I get caught up with so many hats on my head that I forget to take time refocus on my purpose.

When I started this blog it was easy for me to create posts about things that make me tick.  Fashion makes me tick.  Accessories make me tick.  Finding fashionable bargains make me tick.  However, the purpose of The Diva Plan is not necessarily all about looking good and shopping.  For women, those things are important, but being balanced in order to fulfill dreams should be a higher priority.

Well before the inception of this blog, I created a personal mission to create a life that I could be happy with and I didn't just think about it; I put it on paper.  For years, I have let this plan marinate.  It has been reviewed, edited and reworked, but never actually realized.  Hopefully for the next few months, I will begin to share with my visitors what The Diva Plan actually is.  I desire to see the successful completion of at least the core purpose of The Diva Plan and that is to create and live a life in which dreams are fulfilled and happiness stays on board.

Please participate with me and begin creating your own Diva Plan!

Oct 2, 2011

Fashion Find: Goodwill

Missoni for Target Colore Mini Chevron Full/Queen Duvet Set purchased from Goodwill for $26!
September 13th was a good day for Target and Italian knitwear designer, Missoni.  Target is probably the original discount store purveyor of designer collaborations.  In the past, they have called upon designers such as Isaac Mizrahi, Zac Posen, Todd Oldham and even Jean Paul Gaultier to create exclusive lines for their apparel and home decor divisions, but who knew that their collabo with Missoni would create the retail frenzy that it did.  So much so, that on opening day, Target's website crashed due to the over abundance of consumer activity.  In news stories seen around the country, September 13th rivaled Black Friday with customers rushing the door in a fit to be the first to purchase Missoni goods.  As it turns out, it was a good thing they did because many Target stores sold out of what was intended to be a 6 week supply! 

My Missoni for Target experience was quite different.  It was a rainy day and my co-worker and I went back and forth about whether or not it was a good day for us to make our lunchtime Goodwill run.  Finally, I convinced her that we should do it just to get away from the office and to have a little thrift store therapy. 

When I go to Goodwill there is a path I take that I generally do not veer from.  I start in the kids department with hopes of snagging pieces for my daughter from The Gap, Old Navy, Justice for Girls, Ralph Lauren, etc. and yes I'm a tag whore!  Next, I go to the plus size section, which consists of 1 rack and I usually anticipate finding nothing.  This day was no different, except I decided to peek at the nearby linen section to find something for home.  I got a rug and then all of a sudden my eyes became affixed on what appeared to be a zig-zag comforter.  I slowly walked closer to get a better look.  I'm a feeler so I rubbed it and looked at it closely and sure enough, it appeared to be a Missoni for Target duvet.  Next to it was hanging 2 matching shams!  I threw it in the cart and moved on quickly to my other favorite departments, still not even sure if it was really Missoni for Target.  I checked the shams for a price and was able to see that they were $2.99.  The duvet was going to be more of a chore because it was rather big to be unfolding to search for a price.  At the register, one of the cashiers said, "That's the stuff they've been fighting over at Target."  The price of the duvet became an issue because it wasn't marked.  The cashier left to find the manager, but there was a long line building behind me.  Goodwill can be cut throat and I was beginning to sweat just looking at line of customers behind me, but I was going to stand my ground for this purchase.  Soon the cashier came back and said, "$20?"  I said, "Let's do it!"  It was done, I purchased a Missoni, full/queen duvet set at Goodwill for $26!  I went online to check the exact name and price of my set and it is the Colore Mini Chevron design, priced at $99.99.  I also checked the tags inside the set and it clearly reads on the bronze colored tags, "Missoni for Target".  Tell me I'm not blessed!  Thank you Missoni, Target and most of all Goodwill!

Fashion Find: Church Tailgate Sale

In this post, I would like to open myself up and admit to my readers that...I'm a gold digger!  Not a Kanye West gold digger or a Sharon Stone in Casino gold digger, but I'm a bargain hunting gold digger.  God gave me eyes that can scan and locate stylish, affordable items when I'm in affordable places.  Today I am so excited to share my finds!  My morning started out with my daughter begging me, at 10 in the morning, to go to a garage sale that she spotted a few doors down.  Unwillingly, I threw on a jacket and shuffled my way down the street while she ran to the garage sale.  I picked up a large planter for $1 that I figure I can spray paint some bright color for next spring.  From there, my adrenaline started to trickle and I decided that we would spend the remainder of the morning scouting out garage sales.  At another garage sale, I ran into a lovely woman who alerted me to large tailgate sale at a church in the neighborhood.  After going from table to table with my daughter running wild over the abundant toy selection, I was finally able to focus on the adult items and here is what I found...

The necklace is R.J. Graziano and it is gold with light chocolate stones.  This necklace makes my eyes sparkle!  The fur scarf is Dennis Basso and I'm having visions of wearing it very casually with a cream sweater, jeans and boots.  Both were $10.  Oooo la la!  Next to waking up, my daughter waking up and us having another day of life together, these are the kind of finds that make my day simply marvelous!

Oct 1, 2011

Fall Fashion: Let's Get It!

Grey, taupe, fur and flowy were all trends seen on the runway for fall and as much as I love keeping up with the major league designers, in reality I can't even afford a thread from one of their pieces.  In my world, reality goes from painful to acceptance to possibilities.  With that said, I've found some affordable options (all of these items are available in plus sizes) to keep us real world divas fresh, fierce and fly for fall.

American Glamour by Badgley Mischka, draped front suede jacket,  $149.90 or 3 payments of $49.97,

Cushion Walk Suede Elastic Bootie, $39,99,

Bespoke Perfect Black Pencil Skirt, $60, www,

Iman Global Chic Color Block Cape, $99.95 or 3 payments of $33.32,

Iman Platinum Collection Leather Studded Gloves, $59.95 or 2 payments of $29.98,

Lucy Brown Suede Wedge Boot, $51.38,

Luxe Rachel Zoe Fur Vest, $88.00,

Dickie's Skinny Jean, $29.98,

Sep 25, 2011

Fall Fashion Hit List

Black wide leg slacks never die.

Grey + pencil skirt=Trendy wardrobe staple

This black, hidden platform, ankle boot can be dressed up with a skirt or dressed down with jeans.

Clutch purse:  Hot item for fall

Spice up your outerwear with red.

Taupe and grey are the leading colors for fall.

Tassels will be the sleeper accessory for fall--adorning ears, necks, shoes and handbags.

Order up a pair of shoes or boots for fall with a little fur on the side.

The bell bottom is making a comeback!  Did you save yours?

The fur vest is trending big time for fall.

Don't worry, skinny jeans are still in.

A one shoulder dress provides a little more coverage than a strapless one, but is just as sexy. 

Plaid:  Have it your way

Sep 14, 2011

September 15th: Final Day For New York Fashion Week Spring 2012

Ralph Lauren Fall '11
Style ID:  Bohemian classic
Pairing ethnic accessories with classic pieces=unique

Calvin Klein Fall '11
Style ID:  Laid back luxury
This leather shift can be dressed up or down

For the past 8 days, I've been following the tweets of stylists, designers and celebrities.  Hopefully, they will be able to get some well deserved rest this weekend because they have been on their creative grinds!  Tomorrow is the final day of fashion week and according to the schedule, there will be no live streams.  Tomorrow, two of America's premier designers will come out and eyes will be watching to determine the trend of true American glamour.  Ralph Lauren and Calvin Klein will showcase their spring collections and both have a history of producing clean lined, pure tailored apparel.  Although the schedule doesn't indicate live streams for these shows, I will still be checking out the LiveRunway channel on YouTube to see if these shows are aired.  The past few days I've been able to view shows that were not scheduled to be live streamed.  Also tomorrow, I will do a post on the primary trends seen on the runway for Fall and Spring.  Then the planning can begin!

Sep 13, 2011

New York Fashion Week Spring 2012: Live Stream Schedule for September 14th

Michelle Smith Fall '11
The little black dress pumped up

September 14


Sep 12, 2011

New York Fashion Week Spring 2012: Live Stream Schedule For September 13th

Herve Leger by Max Azria Fall '11

September 13


Sep 11, 2011

New York Fashion Week Spring 2012: Live Stream Schedule For September 12th

Donna Karan Fall '11
Is grey the new black for Fall '11?
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September 12, 2011


Sep 10, 2011

My Apologies to Korto Momolu

Designer Korto Momolu
Her website is currently in the works

In my zeal to post the live stream schedule for fashion week yesterday, I committed a serious fashion violation.  I neglected to not just make mention, but shine a bright spotlight on Korto Momolu.

Korto Momolu, of Project Runway Season 5, is a woman who is seriously passionate about her craft.  The first time I watched Korto on Project Runway, a fashion design/competition reality show, I was mesmerized by her design skills and the logistically original way in which she transformed them in to visual art.  I was also highly impressed by her consistent creation of ethnic inspired designs and don't sleep on her accessory game either.  She is a multi-talented force!

Korto is not to be ignored and she should be admired by any woman who has a dream.  This wife and mother stepped out on the edge and is now a world renown designer. 

Yesterday, her Spring 2012 collection took to the runway at New York Fashion Week and although I have yet to see any of the pieces, I was just as inspired knowing that she is still pushing forward creating fashion magic.

P.S. Trust me, when I see them you WILL see them!

New York Fashion Week Spring 2012: Live Stream Schedule for September 11th

Tracy Reese Fall '11. 
Colorful and flowy will be the trend for Fall 
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September 11, 2011


Sep 9, 2011

New York Fashion Week Spring 2012: Live Stream Schedule for September 10th

Jill Stuart Fall '11
Don't try to fight the graphics because they will be in for fall!
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September 10, 2011


*Monique Lhullier live stream may be showng incorrectly on the schedule.  If you really want to see it, be prepared for a 7AM showing!

**Remember, these shows are scheduled in Eastern Standard Time so adjust to your time zone accordingly!

Sep 8, 2011

New York Fashion Week Spring 2012: Live Stream Schedule For September 9th

Nicole Miller Fall '11
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Here is the schedule for tomorrow's live stream of New York Fashion Week Spring 2012.  Don't miss Nicole Miller and Cynthia Rowley.  These 2 designers truly know how to outfit real women.

September 9, 2011


Cynthia Rowley Fall '11
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Sep 7, 2011

Quick Post: 31 Day Reset Update

I will not allow the excitement of Fashion Week to remove me from my conduct square so I wanted to do a quick update on my 31 Day Reset.  Let me start by saying that I haven't been on a "go within" journey in about 7 years and it's not that I didn't want to or was afraid.  It has crossed my mind about a hundred times in the last 7 years to do this.  I definitely needed it and my internal self has been yearning for it.  The situation is so bad that I am sure I have been crying inside.  The 31 day reset was just the prescription I needed because it is taking me places mentally that I really needed to go. 

It is very easy for moms, not to mention single moms (especially those of us who who feel we have gone seriously "all in" to make it happen) to lose sight of our internal selves.  Well this 31 Day Reset is pulling me inside out!  The simple act of journaling my assignments and having to honestly assess my state of being is really opening my eyes to the true quality of life I have been living.  Although I haven't been posting a daily update on my progress, I plan on doing a more detailed post as my breakthrough becomes clearer. 

If you can feel where I'm going with this, please learn more about it by going to

New York Fashion Week Spring 2012 Is Here!

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For the next 8 days I will be in a New York state of mind because the city that never sleeps will be abuzz with one of my favorite things.  Fashion!  Designers will be showcasing their spring wears from September 8th to September 15th.  As much as I would love to, I can't be there, but the geniuses at Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week will be streaming select shows live on YouTube.  Each day I will post a schedule of live streams for following day.  To the lower left of these posts is a YouTube gadget where you can watch them at their scheduled time.  So get with the program and enjoy!

P.S.  Remember, the live streams are scheduled in Eastern Standard Time so adjust to your time zone and plan ahead to see your favorite designers.  Ciao Divas!

September 8, 2011


Sep 5, 2011

The 31 Day Reset

Friday night I was on the web searching for inspirational websites and blogs by women who are on or desire to be on the same path as I.  During my search, I ran across a website that encompasses all of the positivity I need to keep me on track.  The bonus is that it also included a plan for resetting your life called The 31 Day Reset.  Getting started was simple, but the internal journey it takes you on requires time, reflection, honesty and belief in yourself.  Here is a recap of my first 2 days.

Day 1:  I had to choose a notebook for the daily assignments (big ups to my cousin for giving me this journal a couple years ago and recognizing my talent as a writer).  My notebook has a Psalm at the top of each page which is the perfect inspiration for this endeavor.  Also, I had to choose a mantra.  I made up my own which is, Sacrifice=Success All Day.  This mantra is important for me because of my procrastination and commitment issues.  Also, I had to choose a theme song.  I chose It's Alright by Ledisi.  I chose this song because it is about learning to relax and live happily through life's ups and downs.  Each day I must reflect on both my mantra and theme song.  If I truly believe in them, they will soon come to represent the way I deal with my life.

Day 2:  I haven't completed this assignment yet, but it is basically about assessing the love/hate relationship I have with several areas of my life. 

Day 3 will be coming at me fast so I will do an updated post when I've completed Days 2 and 3.  Until then, please visit to learn more about Rosetta Thurman, her website and The 31 Day Reset.

I do believe that the creator, Rosetta Thurman has created a wonderful tool for women. 


Sep 4, 2011

I Passed!

I am so excited to report the results of my RSVP Test!  For me, this weekend presented quite a challenge.  I was invited to 2 events, made plans for my daughter and I to have a staycation and there was also a pop quiz of sorts involved.

Saturday was supposed to be a light day.  I wasn't sweating the baby shower because it was scheduled to start at 1 in the afternoon.  I assumed it would be a breeze; and it was to a certain degree, but I forgot my daughter had her own social activities to attend Saturday.  Luckily, hers included an early morning play date at a friend's house, which was accompanied by an outing provided by her friend's mother.  The glory in this was that it forced me to get my day started early and her absence allowed me the time I needed to prepare for the baby shower.  However, I lost some points on this part of the test for two reasons.  One, I neglected to buy a gift bag so I had to stop on the way to get one.  Two, I neglected to bring the invitation with me and my memory failed me on the location.  I went to the wrong community center and arrived 1 hour late at the right location.  Thankfully, the baby shower didn't officially get started until 3 due to issues with the food.  Also, I was able to recoup some points on this task because I won a gift for being the 1st person to RSVP!  Wow!

Also on Saturday, I planned a staycation for my daughter and I since I wasn't able to afford an official summer vacation.  The baby shower was over at 5 and I left there zooming to pick my daughter up and get to the hotel.  The staycation was a success and even more so for my daughter because her dad came in from DC and surprised her while we were at Dave and Buster's.  Another wow!  The staycation was also a success!

Now the BBQ at my cousin's today was definitely going to be my biggest hurdle because I was just coming off of a busy Saturday and I was praying that my health didn't try to sit me down.  The BBQ started at 3 and I slept from 2:30 to about 5.  At 6 I started getting into one of my questionable moods, but at 7 I called to make sure it was not too late to come.  My cousin said it wasn't so we prepared to leave immediately.  Before I walked out the door, I decided to step my game up and take a token of thanks for the invite.  Hopefully, it would let my cousin know that she is appreciated and that her invites are never taken for granted.  Once again my willingness to do the right thing was recognized when my cousin noticed the bottle of wine I brought hadn't been opened.  She asked if I wanted to take it back home.  I told her the bottle of wine was for her and she could add it to her collection.  One of her friends applauded me for being a giver and not a taker backer. 

If this was a real test I would definitely give myself an A+.  Okay maybe an A, but not an A+ because of the late arrivals.  For me, the final grade is not as important as the opportunity I had to redeem myself and be surrounded by the people I love while doing it.

Sep 1, 2011

Quick Post: The RSVP Test

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Okay, I'm under the gun! This weekend I have 2 invites to fulfill; a baby shower Saturday and a BBQ Sunday at my cousin's who I owe big time on the no-show issue.  My intention is to attend both events.  Both are kid friendly and will be an opportunity to be surrounded by family, but here is the coup de gras, my daughter started sneezing and blowing her nose last night and she is now in bed sleeping.  My prayer is that her allergies are trying to get the best of her and not a nasty cold or virus.  I'll post an update after the Labor Day weekend has passed.  Wish me luck!

Aug 31, 2011

What's Your Style ID?

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In a little over a week, designers, editors, stylists and models will be all hands on deck to present a preview of fashion trends for Spring 2012.  These styles will be showcased by the world's most formidable designers. 

New York Fashion Week used to be one of the most exciting times of the year for me!  Not because I was directly involved, but because I LOVE FASHION!  By this time, I would have picked up at least two September issues of my favorite fashion magazines.  By now, they would all be fully reviewed, trends studied and I would have already determined how to translate the latest designs into my Style ID (bohemian-classic). 

For the everyday woman who is hustling and handling business, some of the designs we see presented by world famous designers are unreasonable for our lifestyles, not to mention unaffordable.  With all of that said, I believe we owe it to ourselves to take time to discover our Style ID.  Your Style ID can be one that is easily identified by familiar terms such as preppy or classic, but present Style IDs can be whatever you desire (glam-rocker, classic-rocker, laid back-luxury).  As it should, your Style ID should represent not only who you are at the present, but also a little reaching towards who or where you want to be.  Most of all, it should be something you feel comfortable with.  With that said, I challenge you this weekend to invest in at least one September issue of a fashion magazine.  Generally all of them have HUGE September issues because all of the new designs for fall are showcased.  It is a good opportunity bring yourself up to date with today's fashion trends.  Then when an opportunity comes to shop (which is rare for me), you will have a better grip on the direction you want to take.  Don't be afraid to translate runway fashion into everyday fashion.  The benefit is you'll end up looking great!

P.S.  Fall looks from runway will featured in an upcoming post!  Stay tuned!

Aug 28, 2011

The RSVP Not

The very first issue I need to tackle on my road to fulfilling my Diva Plan is a very sticky one.  As of late, I have been struggling with fulfilling my social obligations.  Simply said, I have been a no-show at several parties I've been invited to and the guilt of my current no show existence is not sitting well with the woman I want to be.  However, my no-show status never goes without the proper reasons.

For one, I am a single mother with a chronic illness who works a full-time job plus mandatory overtime.  Needless to say tired is my middle name.  Additionally, I own a home that never seems to be clean; therefore, something is always lacking on the home front (i.e. laundry, general cleaning, picking up the tree branches that have been in the yard since spring).  My daughter absolutely hates when I work on the weekend and desires to have all of my time from the time I get in from work Saturday afternoon until Sunday night.  I feel her on that issue. 

The bottom line is, I must find a solution to my no-show problem and since most of my values are old school, I researched the old school aficionado on manners, Miss Manners.

According to Miss Manners, specific excuses are not necessary when turning down an invitation, but it should be done promptly.  However, if the host requests an explanation, it should be honest as to not get caught up in a lie later.  She also says an invitation should not be considered as a summons and one should not feel guilty about declining.

Now, I do not want to totally banish my social life, but I have been considering ways to not immediately commit myself to showing my face at every event I'm invited to.  As a result, I've decided the following:

  • For verbal invitations, my cookie-cutter response will be, "I'll let you know by blah blah day." 
  • For written invitations, I will consult my Blackberry calendar (which is a great tool) and take a dose of honesty to determine if the event is something I can truly commit myself to before I officially RSVP. 
Well Divas, there you have it!  I'll keep you posted on this dilemma and tell you my score after the final exam has been taken!

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Aug 23, 2011

Pulling It All Back Together

Welcome to The Diva Plan!  The purpose of the The Diva Plan for my life has never been about becoming a fabulous woman who everyone wants to know and be.  Nor has its purpose been to provide displays of an unreachable lifestyle.  With this blog, I plan to put all of my flaws (well maybe not all of them) on front street.  I am putting myself on the spot so I will have no choice, but to improve my quality of life.  The Diva Plan is about empowering each woman to begin taking the steps necessary to fulfill some of her dreams, improve neglected areas of her life and not be afraid to look good while tackling a hectic lifestyle. 

It is my sincere desire to provide an information on an array of products, websites and fashion trends to keep all of my Divas' plans on track.  I am excited about this journey and the experiences and relationships that will develop.  Check back soon!