Feb 27, 2012

My Fav Looks From Fashion Week Fall 2012...a few of them

Diane Von Furstenberg

Diane Von Furstenberg

Donna Karan

Herve Leger by Max Azria

J. Mendel

L.A.M.B.

Michael Kors

*All photos courtesy of Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week

Feb 13, 2012

Inside Out Love

Tomorrow is the big day!  Love will flourish, die or be longed for.  Valentine's Day used to get me down; especially when I was in my 20's and 30's.  I was anxious to fulfill the expectations of a woman--get married and start a family.  If this wasn't accomplished by 30, I would be in the danger zone!  All of the good men would be taken and my chances of a fairy tale ending would quickly vanish. 

I'm in my 40's now and although I still haven't seen my fairy tale ending, I'm living.  I've learned it's not good to be anxious for love.  Love is a process which develops over time and should never be rushed.  Do I believe in love at first sight?  Of course, but even in those situations, trust, honesty and loyalty still have to be addressed.  I am satisfied with the life I have.  At this stage in the game, I wouldn't want to be a woman who rushed love in the 20's  and 30's and now in the 40's have to deal with divorce court, custody issues and legal bills or not have enough courage to do so.  

We have to truly love ourselves before we can provide the love that is required for a lifelong commitment and it has to be a conscience process.  I'm more excited than ever about falling in love now because I've had the time I need to deal with me and I know my love reward will be better than I ever imagined.  Although I won't be treated to a candlelight dinner and I love yous tomorrow, I will be anxiously awaiting the delivery of a new pair of shoes and business cards because I'm in the midst of loving myself.  I'm loving it!

RIP Whitney Houston

Whitney Houston 1963 to 2012

Feb 4, 2012

The Diva Plan: Progess Report

Time to get back to business!  Having a busy lifestyle makes it easy for me to get off track and stay off track.  As a result, I haven't been putting all my focus on my Diva Plan, but I'm happy to report that I've picked up some good habits as a result of having a plan.

If I were to grade myself today, I'd give myself a C.  I'm still juggling my finances, but no services have been discontinued so progress is at least plateaued in this area.  I've been faithfully using my shopping list and even had a long talk with my hands about picking up things that are either not on my list or not needed.  Also, as soon as I get home from work I get clothes out for my daughter and I for the next day.  Any little preparation seems to help with the morning routine.  My daughter and I have also started attending church again, which is a component of my plan which is very important to me.  With this, I feel like I'm doing the right thing for us because our faith is being fed again.  The big thing is that I'm in the process of quitting smoking!  It's quite a process too, but I'm dedicated to seeing it through.

The most important result is the level of positivity I'm feeling right now.  I truly believe having a positive attitude and outlook brings about an abundance of positive results.  For instance, I've taken up listening (I can't watch and work so I listen) to full episodes of Black Enterprise television shows.  I've gained so much knowledge and inspiration by doing this.  Also, the cessation of my smoking has caused me to want to take the stairs sometimes instead of the elevator.

As you can see, I'm definitely a work in progress and I'm much closer to the old me than I am to the new me, but anticipating the new me is so much more exciting than looking back and that's my golden rule--never look back, never live in the past, never wonder what might have been.  My life is full and I'm forging ahead to the future with gratitude.

If you haven't created your own Diva Plan yet, please read my post What is the Diva Plan? as well as all of the posts that have The Diva Plan in the title and begin creating a vision of the woman you desire to be.  No perfectionists allowed!