I'm a decent woman. I love God, my family and I love myself. I'm not dependent. I take care of myself and my child. I care about other people. I work hard. I have dreams. I have faults. I can be a little mouthy. I'm not looking for Mr. Perfect.
Now take notice, I didn't mention any of the traits that we often hear about when single black women are highlighted--educated, homeowner, career-driven. I mentioned the ones that would matter to me in a relationship. It's almost as if we are now being punished for forging ahead with our lives without a man. Harriet Tubman did it so why not? Some men are turned off by independent women because there's nothing left for them to flex about. I don't care. Find something. Surprise me.
Personally, I don't think there is any advice out there that can help any man or woman find the right mate. Okay, the basic stuff--take a bath, brush your teeth, etc. I still believe in fate and I also believe that if you continue to present your authentic self, the right mate will come. Stay up! Muah!