You name it, I've experienced it! Health challenges, financial woes, broken heart, broken friendships, career disappointments, parenting challenges, family dysfunction and the list goes on! As I consider those things, it's hard to believe I've dealt with so much, yet I continue to dream and push forward. Sometimes, I have no idea how I will bring my dreams to fruition and honestly, I do have days when I'm just in an eff it kind of mood and don't care if I ever do. The older I get, there seem to be more challenges added to my life resume. I now understand these challenges never stop so I developed the motto, "As long as I wake up breathing...". I'm saying a lot, but here's the point I want to get to.
As a gender, we are competitive in ways that our counterparts would never even consider. We have an internal judgment meter that is set on auto from the time we are able to recognize the differences among us. We square each other up immediately based on outward appearances and we use our meters to validate how we feel about ourselves. I'm guilty. But as I get to know other women and they become comfortable giving me a peek inside their lives, I've learned that some of the least noticeable women, have the greatest stories. I simply love seeing women go from trial to triumph because I've been there and still go back there from time to time. Worthless variables have changed the way we view each other. We judge one another based on posted pics of date night w/hubby, vacations, kids' report cards and foyers without stopping to realize that often times, the woman who has the most feels the least deserving and the woman who has the least feels like the world is hers. While the truth of the matter is, most of us have experienced being on the edge and didn't care if we went over it.
This Mother's Day, take a little time to reflect on the resilience of each woman in your life. We are real women, not women with feigned lives on social media or fabulous women on reality shows who brunch with mimosas everyday with perfectly manicured nails, flawless hair and House Beautiful homes. Reflect on the circumstances that built the women you respect, as well as the inner beauty building in you and the women around you. Most of all, STOP judging other women based on bags, relationship statuses and square footage. We miss out on so much life trying to keep up instead of moving at our own pace. Our beginnings and endings may differ, but there is still no comparison because we all are uniquely made and set upon different journeys. Our defeats and wins is where we should gain the majority of our understanding of each other. Women.
I hope I made my point as I feel like I've been rambling! At any rate, I hope everyone has a truly Happy Mother's Day. We'll chat again. Stay up...